This week’s my birthday and I’ll be 68 years young. As you can tell by my phrasing, I don’t consider myself to be “old”. I do recognize that 68 years has given me a lot of time to experience life, gain from those experiences, and take some time to think about my journey through Life.
I’ve heard people talk about their disappointments in life and how they wish things would have been or might still be “different”, better. I, too, have had those same thoughts and feelings. It seems to happen most often when I’m going through a prolonged period of difficulties or chaos. Sometimes, during those time, it just seems like you’ve gotten a raw deal. It just doesn’t seem fair. You whine and complain (or in Taurean language – you piss and moan) to anyone willing to listen. “Why me?” often comes out of your/my mouth. Heck, I even go into ‘rant-at-the-gods’ mode and tell them if they’re going to load me down with all this crap, they could at least throw me a shovel – actually a backhoe would do better!
Here’s the thing that most of us fail to realize: we wouldn’t be the person we are today without the things we experienced – good and bad. Those are our learning experiences in this School of Life. They are the lessons from which we are able to learn and grow; to become wiser; to learn appreciation and gratitude.
Do I ever wish my life experiences had been different? Hell yes! We all would like a nice, easy, pleasant experience. Truth be told, although freedom of choice has and always will be ours, we came in with a plan to learn certain things; to help certain people in certain ways; to discover our potentials. If life was a piece of cake all the time, what would we learn?
Don’t get me wrong, however. I’m not saying we should all be suffering, all the time, to learn and grow. What I have learned is that, when something puts me into a position of suffering or dissatisfaction, it’s telling me to take inventory of what I’m doing and with whom. Obviously, something isn’t right or I wouldn’t be in pain and/or displeasure. It’s like knowing that every time you walk into your house you trip over the same rug and twist your ankle, but you continue refusing to pick up your foot to avoid tripping or moving the rug. Instead, you complain, whine and carry on about how unfair it is that this happens every time you come home! Doesn’t make much sense, does it? And yet, we humans are renown for continuing to do the same things in the same way and expect different results without changing a thing. Kinda crazy, when you think about it, isn’t it?
As I’ve grown older, it’s become abundantly clear where my fears lie and why I doubt certain things. I’ve written extensively about those horrid twins – Fear and Doubt – right here. I’ve counseled numerous people on those very same things. Yet, I still have mine, although to a lesser degree than they used to be. What that has told me is that you don’t necessarily have to totally rid yourself of fear and doubt to make changes in your life. What you do have to do is have the courage of your convictions. In other words, counter fear and doubt with determination and focus.
The Law of Attraction tells us that what we focus on is where our energy flows and causes things to manifest in our lives. Sooooooo…. if you stop focusing on your fears and doubts and instead focus on where you want to be and what you want to be doing, you diminish the power of those same fears and doubts thereby lessening their ability to stop your forward motion. Couple this with a strong determination that you will reach your goal and nothing will be able to stop you!
Is my life where I thought it would be at age 68? That’s a tricky one because I don’t know if I really ever thought that far ahead. Realistically, I’d say, “No.” However, I also realize I have a lot of good years still ahead of me. That means I have a lot of opportunities to still see things manifest that I have been waiting to happen for quite some time. Hope does truly spring eternal!
So, what is all this babbling I’ve been doing here about? Every minute of every day is a new opportunity to choose another way. If your life isn’t the way you want it to be, have the courage to ask yourself the tough questions and really listen to the answers you give. What are your hopes? What are your fears? Why do you doubt? How bad do you want change-for-the-better to happen in your life? What are you willing to do to make it happen? Are you willing to take a ‘Leap of Faith’? Why or why not?
The first step in creating change is understanding why you are still where you are rather than where you want to be. It really has nothing to do with anyone but you (or me). The only opportunities we miss are the ones we aren’t open to; the ones we are too afraid to chance. Without honest answers to questions like the ones above, we continue to fool ourselves into believing we just have bad luck; can’t catch a break; or, it’s someone else’s fault that life is such a disappointment. The power lies in the hands of each and everyone of us. Our lives can be any way we want them to be, if we would only believe in ourselves and our ability to move past fear and doubt to create that life.
This is what my 68 years has taught me and continues to teach me. I share it with you, on this Friday the 13th, so that “luck” and good fortune can begin to manifest for you – right here, right now.